Six Ways To Reboot Your Marriage
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A happy marriage requires daily intentional care and attention. However, many people go into marriage with the idea that Marriage will magically solve all of their problems. The look for what marriage can do for them rather than what they can do for their marriage. Here are 6 things you can do to make your marriage better:
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Don’t dwell on your Spouse’s shortcomings.
Everyone has both positive and negative qualities. If you spend your time focusing on what’s bad about your spouse instead of their positive qualities, your marriage will suffer. Choose to focus on what you love about your spouse. -
Make your spouse feel needed.
We all need each other. No man (or woman) is an island. Knowing that a person needs you and relies on you makes you feel loved and necessary. Ask your spouse for help, it will make them feel good. -
Pay Your Spouse a Compliment or Drop a Word of Appreciation daily.
What man won’t get weak in the knees when he receives a text message saying that you are yearning for his embrace when he gets home tonight? What woman won’t have a better day when she gets a love note on her pillow before you leave for work? Verbal compliments and words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love. -
Engage in physical contact outside of the bedroom.
Bodily contact does not always need to be sexual intercourse in order to arouse feelings of connectedness and love. Hold hands when you walk together. Snuggle up together on the couch and watch a TV show or movie. Give each other a kiss before you each start your day. Hug your partner when you know they have had a bad day. Touching and closeness send the message that you love them and that you care. -
Take time out from your busy day to listen to your Spouse.
Nothing makes a person feel more valued than when you take the time to truly sit down and listen to what they have to say. It is a small way to show that you care about your spouse. -
Support your partner’s passions.
You may have a passion for crafting but have very little time to devote to it. He may be an avid runner but struggles to get time to get out on the trail. Tell your spouse that you will take care of (fill in the blank: kids/chores/parents etc.) while they take some time to pursue their passion. Giving our partner time to pursue their passion shows that you still care about their happiness and respect their talents and passions.