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5 Reasons Couples Should Work Toward Their Goals Together

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Do you and your Spouse set goals together?  Most people would answer “Yes.” Most couples plan for retirement and large expenditures. Some have a bucket list of places they want to see before they die. Just about everyone sets personal goal in their New Year’s resolutions. However, do you and your partner set relationship goals?

Your marriage is one of the biggest events in your life. It is the foundation of everything you do as a couple and the center of your happiness or misery.  So, why would you leave something so important to the winds of fate? If you don’t have a plan for your marriage, then you may not be on the same page.

Couples function better when they are on the same page, working toward the same goals. At the very least, you and your partner should spend some time each year, looking at where you have been, where you are, and where you want to go.

How to Set goals Together

  1. Look at all the areas of your life as a couple and choose 3 or 4 that you both want to work on over the next 12 months.

Areas can be anything, such as Money, Parenting, Home Projects, Couple Time, Friendships with other couples, Faith, Sex Life, Leisure time together, etc.

  1. For the three or four areas you chose to work on, think of two specific, measurable goals you can work on. Suppose you chose Parenting as one of your areas. You might feel that one of you does more of the parenting than the other. So, a goal could be “working together as a parenting team.”

5 Reasons to work together on goals

  1. Partnership - By working together as a team to reach a common goal, your relationship is instantly strengthened. Stronger teamwork = stronger foundation.
  2. Support- Committing to change of any kind includes both struggles and obstacles. Having a partner to help you face and overcome each challenge is a huge advantage.
  3. Soundboard- As you embark on this journey together, you will continue to learn together. Sharing ideas and tips for what works and what doesn’t will help you stimulate each other’s minds.
  4. Accountability- Having someone in your corner will hold you responsible for staying on track. They’ll also have your back, which is simply the best feeling there is.
  5. Celebration- Both of you celebrating both of your accomplishments together brings you closer together as a couple.

When you both make it a priority to work on relationship goals together, your marriage becomes stronger, and you deepen your connection to each other.  

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