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Ten Ways To Erase Marriage Boredom

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When couples first get married, everything is new, and you spend every waking hour together. It’s fun to go shopping hand in hand, spend hours over coffee and breakfast talking, etc.  Everything about your partner is new and you want to spend time getting to know all about them. Over time, however, life gets busy and soon you both drift into a daily routine. If you forget to focus on your marriage, boredom can easily set in.

Boredom can lead to bad decisions. Arguments. Resentment. Infidelity. If you find yourself bored in marriage, the key, then, is to take time for each other, even if it’s only small pockets here and there. The key is to recognize boredom and take measures to prevent it. Here's ten ways to keep boredom at bay.

  1. Take a few minutes every day to share what you appreciate about each other and your marriage and why. It will do wonders for your relationship.
  1. Do something that completely surprises your partner like surprise them at work for lunch or a cup of coffee. Sometimes that unexpectedness can create the thrill that once swept you off your feet.
  1. Get out of town occasionally. When you’re living your day-to-day life as a married couple, the scenery rarely changes. The lack of new places and new surroundings can rob a marriage of its excitement and sense of adventure.
  1. Go visit places you used to frequent when you were dating. By returning to that place and remembering those positive experiences, you can rekindle the attraction to your partner.
  1. Kiss your partner every day to keep the marriage bond strong. If you make it a point to keep kissing one another, your hormones will pretty much do the bonding work for you.
  1. Tease your partner frequently. Make a sexual inuendo by provocatively touching, whispering in their ear, or texting a sexy message
  1. Make a sex date once a week. With a sex date on the calendar, you are more likely to plan out what you can do to make it fun, different, and exciting.
  1. Try something new together. Trying new things together like a sport, hobby, or class, can keep your relationship alive.
  1. Add more laughter into your marriage. Tell each other jokes or funny stories, watch comedies, laugh about funny things in your past.
  1. Talk with your spouse every day. Carve out time to really talk and listen to your spouse daily.

Boredom is often due to disconnection between partners in the marriage. Do something daily to connect and reconnect with each other to keep your marriage strong and alive

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