Signs You Are Neglecting Your Marriage
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Successful marriages don't just happen; they take hard work. When you neglect your relationship, you risk losing it altogether. Here are five signs that your relationship is in need of some attention.
You and your spouse are rarely intimate.
Intimacy is a significant part of any romantic relationship. If you no longer enjoy intimacy with your partner, this is a sign of neglect in a relationship.
Life gets busy and stressful and being intimate isn’t the fist thing you think about, but connecting with your partner on a physical and emotional level is very essential. Sex is a way for each of you to derive pleasure from each other and deepen your relationship. It shouldn’t be just another thing on our to-do list. Neglecting intimacy can make a person feel unloved.
You and your spouse no longer talk about your day.
Even if your days tend to be the same every day, sharing what you do with your partner is a way to show that you care. When you stop asking about their day, you send the signal that it doesn’t really matter to you what your spouse does or is interested in. They, in turn, stop bothering to share information about their interests, hobbies, dreams etc. because they assume you have lost interest in them. You should also be asking about your spouse’s day, interests etc. even if they are not your own.
Putting the children before your marriage.
Having a “child-centered” marriage is a mistake. It is true that the kids require a lot of time and energy, but your relationship with your spouse should still be a priority. Your life cannot center on your kid’s lives while your spouse is left ignored. Make sure that you continue to have date nights and quality time with your partner at home. These moments where you can connect without the children being the center of attention will help to keep your relationship strong.
You no longer bother about your appearance.
If you don’t taking care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else either. If you have stopped caring about your appearance, how you dress, and even how you act, this can negatively impact your relationship. It is easy for a spouse to think you have given up on your relationship if you have given up on yourself. Take some time each day to do your hair and makeup, put on a nice outfit, get some exercise, and take pride in making a healthy meal.
You are stuck in a routine.
Every day is the same as the rest and everything is routine. You and your spouse have become lazy about your relationship. Remember when you were dating or first married and you went out of your way to come up with new date ideas or surprise for your spouse? It doesn’t take much to recreate that newness or novelty again. Make a special dinner for him, bring some flowers home to her, and plan an evening out for the two of you. You would be surprise at how it will add spark and excitement to your marriage. Desire in long-term relationships thrives off of such newness and novelty. Do something to spark that desire again.
Failing to appreciate your spouse and marriage can lead to one or both partners feeling unwanted and possibly unloved. This also puts you at high risk of divorce and both physical and emotional affairs. If you think you might be guilty of not prioritizing your relationship, you can start taking steps to change this and get back on track again.