Marriage Isn’t Something You Can Settle Into And Forget
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When you and your partner said “I DO”, you both chose to “love, honor, and cherish each other until death do you part.” You couldn’t wait to get home and be intimate with your partner. As the years go by, life naturally has a way of getting in between you in your partnership. That’s the natural flow of things. Each of you becomes distracted, and busy with the other things in life such as work, maintaining the household, relationships with relatives and friends, social engagements, and children etc.
How we drift apart
We forget to put our marriage and our spouse above other things.
We take each other for granted.
We don’t make an extra effort to please our spouse.
We spend less and less time together.
You did not marry your spouse so that you could continue to live apart from them. You are not a single person going through life. You are one half of a partnership. On your wedding day, “From this day forward” , you vowed to love and care for your souse.
Intentionally choose your partner
It takes real intentionality not to let the marriage drift apart, but to find ways to “drift” back together in marital partnership and intimacy when stuff happens. Marriage doesn’t just happen then continue on auto-pilot. Maintaining and growing love consists of decisions. It’s a matter of daily choices. You have to make an effort to choose your partner with your head, your heart, and your actions to make your marriage work.
You can choose each other everyday in small ways.
Here are ten ways you can choose each other:
Choose to consult your partner before making a big purchase.
Choose to talk to your partner instead of spending your time on the cell phone.
Choose to believe your partner when he or she calls to tell you that he or she will be late coming home from work.
Choose your partner when you check with them before you make a social engagement.
Choose to spend time with your partner when you could be on the computer instead.
Choose to spend time with your partner rather than watch a TV show.
Choose to defend your partner when in-laws criticize them.
Choose to forgive your partner when they have made a mistake.
Choose to side with your partner when making decisions about the children.
Choose to love your partner when they try to initiate sex.
Be intentional in growing your love and marriage by choosing your partner, or it may die from neglect.
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