Make Your Marriage Your First Priority
Posted on
A strong marriage is the healthiest thing you can give yourself and your kids; therefore, it becomes a priority. It doesn't mean you have to put all your energy into your marriage and ignore other things in your life that are a priority or need to come first. There is a balance here. Prioritizing your marriage means you do little things to make your partner feel special. Find ways to connect with your spouse daily and schedule regular time with just the two of you. Putting your marriage first is essential because it provides the foundation for everything you build together. You want it to last a lifetime.
Find Small Ways to Make Your Spouse Feel Cherished
When you put your marriage first, try to find small ways to make your spouse feel cherished.
Some suggestions include the following:
- Bring coffee in the morning, express your affection for them.
- Be happy to see your partner when they arrive home.
- Hug, kiss, and hold hands often.
- Text and flirt throughout the day and set a date night weekly.
- Don't hold grudges.
It's Important to Spend Time Together
Spending time with your partner is essential for your relationship to grow and blossom into something more profound. Unfortunately, people tend to become comfortable the longer they've been together or become busy pursuing personal interests. They stop putting their spouse first, and quality time can decrease. It becomes a problem if you emotionally disconnect with your partner. Setting aside quality time to spend with each other is essential. Focus on enjoyment and re-establishing the romantic connection, which goes a long way in strengthening the relationship. Some ways you can spend quality time are:
- Go on a holiday together
- Go for a walk in the park
- Enjoy a coffee break together
- Stay indoors and watch movies together
Mutual Respect is Essential
Be considerate of each other's time.
Consider each other's schedules when planning individual activities and communicating your expectations. Ensuring you're on the same page is respectful, and it helps to factor in quality time together. If you've promised your spouse that you will be home at a particular time, stick to that promise. Keep each other in the loop if you will be late or if something changes.
Keep secrets
One of the most important things you can do for your spouse is to respect their privacy and keep their thoughts, feelings, or other things that they aren't sharing publicly quiet. Your spouse is your most trusted confidant, and they are yours. It is best to let them be the ones to share something if they choose.
Tell your spouse first, consider their feelings, and ask for their input.
When something exciting or disappointing happens, tell your spouse before you disclose it to your circle of friends or family. It can be hard to wait, but it shows respect to them and lets them know they are your most important relationship. Consider your spouse's feelings about a situation before you make big decisions or during disagreements. Ask for their input on situations that arise, as they know you better than anyone else and may have valuable thoughts about your situation.
Thank your spouse
It is easy to take our spouse for granted on those things they do regularly. Start thanking them each day. Thank them for going to work and supporting the family. Thank them for being a loving spouse. Your gratitude and appreciation will show that you respect and value them.
Recognize that they are human.
Give your spouse grace when they make mistakes, and try not to get upset with them. None of us are perfect; we all make mistakes. Treat your spouse as you want to be treated with respect and grace.
Pay Attention to Your Spouse
We all have things that steal our attention and shape our values negatively, which can impact our marriage. Paying attention to your spouse and giving them the attention they deserve and need is an excellent way to make your marriage a priority. When we prioritize in favor of our partner, life is happier, sweeter, and more fulfilling. There is always time to spend with friends and work late, but priorities must be balanced. You may have misplaced priorities if your life constantly flows toward more attention at work ( sports, friends, etc) and not toward your spouse.
Grow Together with Shared Goals
Putting your spouse first means growing together and creating goals you can work toward.
Your goals could be any of the following:
- a regular date night
- a romantic getaway
- a new hobby together
Sharing goals helps you continue growing together and strengthens your partnership.
One of the secrets to a happy marriage and life is to put your partner first and give them preferential treatment. It can be challenging with other demands for time and attention. Consider using Marriage In a Box for helpful suggestions and guidance about managing to prioritize your spouse for an enduring marriage.
Marriage In a Box provides access to tools and techniques professionals use for relationship issues. You can set goals, earn rewards, and find marriage coaching on the site. Check out the available kit and sources of information online.
Download Our Worksheet And Discover Your Top Relational Desires!