Happy Marriages Are Based On Friendship
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Having a friendship with your spouse provides the solid ground beneath your feet. It is an emotional bond greater than the romantic feelings and sexual desires in a marriage. It is not just a physical connection but also a mental and emotional connection that creates longevity in your relationship. How do you know if you and your spouse are also friends?
Your spouse should be your ally and confidante. Most people will only share their deepest secrets and place their greatest reliance on someone they trust. Friendship helps married couples feel safe enough to be more open with one another without worrying about being judged or feeling insecure. In marriage, you should be able to trust your spouse with your money, body, future, possessions, dreams, goals and secrets.
Your spouse should be willing to hang in there when the going gets tough. In every marriage, you are bound to hit patches where some external event puts a strain on your marriage. It could be loss of a job, the birth of a child, moving, or some other event that shakes your world. Couples that have a strong friendship are able to embrace each other’s needs rather than focusing on the negative. Despite all the fights and storms and no matter what happens to you in your marriage, you need to feel that your spouse will always value and care for your.
You and your spouse should treat each other with mutual regard. All good friendships are founded upon a mutual respect and enjoyment of each other’s company. Couples that have been together a while tend to know each other’s likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams and personalities. While not every one of their partner’s qualities may be endearing to them, they have a mutual affection, caring, respect, and understanding of and for each other.
If you and your spouse are having difficulties building or nurturing your friendship, a Marriage Counselor can help.
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