Don't Take Your Spouse for Granted
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At the beginning of a relationship, every moment feels magical - the warmth of your partner's body beside you, the joy of laughing together. The novelty can wear off as time passes, and those moments might not feel as special anymore. There are ways to prevent taking your partner for granted and keep the spark alive with concrete actions. It will not only keep things exciting for you both, but it will also make your partner feel valued and loved.
Taking your partner for granted can cause unnecessary fights and lost moments of happiness. But when you appreciate your partner, you can overlook the small things that might otherwise cause issues. By focusing on what you love about them now, you can avoid reaching the point where it's too late.
How You Know You Are Taking Your Spouse for Granted
1.You expect them to handle specific tasks
Refrain from assuming your partner is permanently assigned to a specific household task just because they're better at them.
2. You don't show them gratitude.
To keep your spouse motivated and appreciated, compliment them on specific things they've done around the house. It may prevent them from feeling unappreciated and less motivated.
3.You assume they know how you feel about them.
Give your relationship the time and attention it needs with planned rituals like date night or a kiss when you leave the house in the morning.
4. You expect gratitude for doing your part around the house.
Although it is nice to receive appreciation, you should not expect it or feel disappointed if it doesn't come for maintaining your part of chores. Don't wait for your partner to ask you to do chores. Share your thoughts and plan for the week ahead.
The Worst Thing You Can do is Ignore and Take Your Partner for Granted
When we're trying to win someone over, we do everything right. After marriage, we take our relationship for granted and pay less attention. Ignoring your partner is worse than criticizing them. Focus on what you appreciate to avoid this. Say these four things to show you care;
What do you want to do?
Plan activities together by asking your partner what they want to do. Lack of communication can lead to feeling taken for granted. Ask your partner what they want to improve and what's working well.
I can't wait to be with you!
Longing keeps relationships alive. Let them know you long for them. Small acts of love are essential. For example:
- Kiss and hug before work.
- Leave love notes.
- Call them at work.
- Flirt regularly.
- Do the little things they appreciate, like buying flowers, holding hands, or splitting household chores.
Our relationship is the most important one I have on this earth!
Prioritize your spouse and your relationship. Be aware of what's happening and communicate frequently with your partner. Regularly assure, defend, and stand by your spouse that you love and respect them. Nurturing your relationship is a two-way street.
Thank you!
Expressing gratitude and appreciation towards your spouse is essential. Show appreciation often by saying "thank you" for even the most minor things.
Ways to Show Appreciation for Your Spouse
1. Give Compliments
Expressing your attraction and appreciation towards your significant other is essential. Telling your partner they're attractive, sexy, or the best spouse ever, especially in a unique way using your voice, never gets old.
2. Spend Time Apart
Taking a break from each other can rekindle appreciation. Visit family or friends to be away from your partner; it will help you remember what you love about them.
3.Take Over Each Other's Chores
To show appreciation for your partner, occasionally take over their household duties or switch up your usual chores.
Remember, the goal is to show appreciation without expecting anything in return.
4. Tell Your Partner When They've Done Something Right
Thank your partner for even the small things, like making their special coffee in the morning. Expressing gratitude can lead to an ongoing appreciation cycle and encourage them to do even more for you.
5. Get Each Other Gifts
Take a few minutes to buy your partner something they need or want, like flowers or a phone charger. These small acts can make your partner feel cared for.
6. Go on Fun Dates
Try going on a unique date like dance lessons or a hot air balloon ride to reignite the excitement of a new relationship. Trying new things together creates a sense of novelty and connection.
It can be challenging to restructure your life, reverse the habit of taking your spouse for granted, and revive a spark of romance. Consider using marriage In a Box for professional support, helpful suggestions, and guidance. Marriage In a Box provides access to tools and techniques that professionals use to address relationship issues. On the site, you can set goals, earn rewards, and find marriage coaching. Check out the available kit and sources of information online.
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