3 Ways To Reconnect With Your Spouse
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All relationships go through their rough patches. When life struggles and demands from work and home collide, couples can drift apart. Before your marriage becomes too disconnected, you need to put in some work to reconnect with your partner and get back in the groove.
Here are some things you can do to breathe some life into your relationship and learn how to reconnect with your partner.
Spend time experiencing things together
When you experience something together, you retain impressions and memories of the experience. You remember whom you were with, the situational humor, or how it made you feel. Experiencing things together is a great way to freshen old bonds.
- Cook a new dish.
- Go for a walk.
- Take a class.
- Enjoy a concert.
- Share a candlelight dinner.
- Make a bucket list.
- Watch a movie or sporting event.
- Go to a beer or wine tasting.
- Go dancing or take dance lessons.
- Play a Board game, video game or build a puzzle.
Rebuild your emotional bond.
You can touch each other in ways that are intimate, but not necessarily sexual. You can touch each other with your understanding and vulnerability. Any part of yourself you share with your partner has the potential to deepen the emotional connection you have. Whenever you open yourself up and reach for your partner, you build an emotional bond.
- Send each other a card or note.
- Text him or her a naughty message.
- Pay him or her a compliment in front of friends and family.
- Tell your spouse you love them.
- Whisper sweet nothings in his or her ear.
- Flirt with your spouse.
- Play with his or her hair.
- Talk about your dreams.
- Share your hardest struggles.
- Ask about his or her day.
Rekindle physical intimacy
When your love life goes stale, part of your life has gone stale. Start slowly finding ways to reconnect with one another physically. Ask your partner what he/she would like and dedicate some time together. Start small with cuddling before bed, a back rub, or plan an intimate night together. It helps you connect on many levels.
- Hold hands.
- Share a lingering kiss.
- Welcome your spouse home with a hug.
- Give each other a massage.
- Take a shower together.
- Share breakfast in bed.
- Cuddle on the couch.
- Play a bedroom game.
- Caress each other gently.
- Make love slowly.
Reconnecting will take work on the part of both spouses, but the rewards will be well worth it.
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